What a trip.
It’s been a week since I returned to Vancouver from Chris Gillabeau’s first World Domination Summit in Portland, Oregon. When I bought my ticket through a very random set of circumstances on a waiting list of 400+ people, I didn’t really know what I was getting myself into. I’ll save the juicy deets from WDS for another post, for now, I wanted to share a bit of the insight that I gained from being in Portland with 499 rad folks.
I’ve been on an personal roller-coaster of transformation this past year, from ending a long term relationship to re-connecting with long-lost family, and in an attempt to rediscover who I really am, I’ve also unearthed cracks in my identity mostly filled with trauma, fear and a hell of a lot of other people’s baggage. As I open myself to new experiences and new connections in particular, these “cracks” are thrown wide open, exposing these limited beliefs that I’ve been grasping with a tightly wound fist. And then, miraculously, and in what seems like an instant, I let go.
I know what you’re thinking, how can you just “let go”? This sounds far too simple doesn’t it? My friend James Sinclair, who I worked with on What If? The Movie, has expressed to me many times that as quickly as you can have a negative thought, you can simply let go of that same thought, in an instant.
Because I had never experienced this seemingly radical instant transformation, it became a bit of a thorn in my side. I obsessed over how James had been able to eliminate destructive thoughts and tendencies simply, by shifting a negative thought into a positive thought. From someone who has a tendency to over-think things, the concept seemed too easy to be legit. I’m sure a few of you are thinking that very same thing right now.
At WDS, life guru and all-around superhero (just sayin’!) Jonathan Fields talked about “re-framing”, a technique often used in therapy settings, and a highly effective way to shift your ideas on experiences in your life. It isn’t a radical idea, in fact, its pretty simple.
I hadn’t even realized it but I’ve been re-framing bit by bit over the past couple of months. Unsatisfied with the self-induced anxiety of remaining independent following the loss of my partner, the fretting over money, time, reputation, friends, family, societal obligations and depression, I visited a naturopath, got on an aggressive plan to re-connect the wires in my brain, met with my birth mother for the first time in 20 years and basically, gave my fears the big eff off.
Consciously saying “I can choose who I want to be and what I want out of my experiences in life”, instead of saying, “I can’t do this because of this person/thought/belief/perception….” holds incredible power. This tiny shift in thought made a massive impact on how I am currently choosing to live my life.
As I rode the train into Portland on Friday evening before the WDS kick-off, I went over in my head all of the things I was nervous about:
**meeting new people
**will anybody want to hear what I have to say?
**does what I am doing really matter to anyone else?
And then I addressed each thought for what it was, fear, trepidation, uncertainty and flipped them on their heads.
**I will meet new people who will bring love and light and success into my world
**I will eliminate judgment when I interact with people
**I am a strong connector and I do not need to act like someone else to network successfully
**Not everyone will want to hear what I have to say and that’s okay but a lot of other people will
**Everything I am doing matters to me and will serve to make a positive impact on the people around me
Of course I can’t guarantee that this will work for you, it certainly takes an understanding that everything that happens is because YOU make it happen. I believe every choice we make is reflected in the outcome, that we have full control over our experiences and circumstances. From gaining this perspective, my personal power has grown and my stress levels have reduced drastically.
Tiny shifts = HUGE gains.
I have so much more to share about the World Domination Summit but I don’t want to overload you so please stay tuned for an in-depth look at what we did for those 3 magical days in Portland.